Always be your best!
It’s advice we have often heard and advice I’ve even offered during my motivational programs. The problem is, it isn’t possible. We can’t always be at our best, most positive and productive “setting,” every moment and in every encounter. Sure, that is the goal – to offer your greatest contributions. But on occasion, during stressful moments, in a weak mental state (especially while fatigued), any one of us has the potential to “lose it” and issue a less than helpful response.
However, I do think that there is one area in life where we can make one decision that will make a significant, positive, and ongoing change for the better. I’m talking about the arena of online postings.
Increasingly, we are in the habit (or forming the habit) of tweeting our thoughts, sharing our “status,” and casting our comments on other people’s lives, words, photos, and ideas. All of this activity takes place in a personal, yet very public space. And the ripple effects of our efforts easily multiply and continue beyond our view. So, as we do this, may I suggest a simple rule to guide you? Post positive.
The words, images, and videos, you share convey your perspective on life. Words can be charged with meanings, attitudes, and emotions. Before you click the “send,” “share,” or “post” buttons, I’m suggesting that you screen your screen, and make sure you are broadcasting positive comments, rather than critical, destructive, or negative ones.
Even in the area of humor, we can easily get ourselves into some trouble. I’ve certainly done it – in emails, texts, and online comments, humor is not always interpreted the way it is intended. When trying to be funny, we can easily miss the mark, especially when attempting to use sarcasm.
I’m not suggesting that you have to be bubbly, happy, and smiley in every instance. Be yourself. But be the best version of yourself. Why? Well, for one thing you are forming a reputation in a very public and enduring forum. Even if you think you are sending a private email to someone, your written words can be easily forwarded or posted. Follow the simple rule that if you wouldn’t want to have your mom read it (or client, spouse, son, or daughter), then don’t put it in writing and send it into cyberspace.
Here are some guidelines you may wish to keep in mind, in order to consistently Post Positive:
- Celebrate greatness – applaud (or “like”) people, ideas, or instances that reflect your ideas of excellence. Amplify the positive.
- Encourage others – Instead of commiserating with others about how bad things are, attempt to uplift and offer guidance, or at least encouragement.
- Disagree respectfully – In heated debates, you may feel the need to share your opinion. Do so with class and respect, even if others are losing their cool.
- Choose clever over sarcastic – Sarcasm is one of the lowest forms of humor. Plus, it’s negative, and easily misread. Instead of going for the easy laugh, be a little more thoughtful with your humor.
- If you don’t have anything nice to say …. You know. We’ve all learned the lesson. Let’s put it to use. Don’t let the negativity of others drag you down. Rise above, and move on.
You have an important voice. Use it wisely. Craft your comments and your persona in a positive way. Extend these ideas into your “live” encounters, as well, and you will not only develop a winning, positive reputation, but also to enjoy a healthier (and more productive) reality. Positive people feel better and tend to get more of what they want. Just another reason to “plus” your perspective.